Hike day

Saturday , Jun - 05- 2010
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Woke up late after a night out in Philly. Beautiful day outside. So was looking at all the hiking groups. There was one close to Lansdale, about 20 miles. Bridlewild hike.
Not sure how the group is or where they will be meeting, plan to just drive over there and see. So made a back up plan of going to the King of Prussia mall.

Saw mail from Eva. composed reply not sure if there is any use to trying to talk or send reply to someone who has a great Chinese wall towards what ever I say.
I wish I could call her and just talk casually as friends with out fear of her getting upset or angry at anything I say. Or only if she could just give me a call. Its so filled up with the stress of Uncertainty of what each is thinking and what her mood is.

She seems to pissed off at me, all because of the mail and contact with Amit and telling him all the history that was involved how she behaved and hurt me at the polish hall by rather drinking with Igor than dancing with me. etc, etc. Which was all my side of the story and I specifically asked him to listen to her side of the story with an open mind and give us some kind of constructive feed back if possible. What he did in the heat of the emotional moment caused her to go on some kind of illusion about what I told.

How I classified her going out meeting so many guys as dating and she was thinking that it was not a date. And Amit in turn been the typical Indian guy constructed it as her been a slut. To the Indian guys, Nilesh, I am sure her friends rishit and mihi too, any girl who has multiple partners or dates multile people is a slut. They may not tell to her face, but when they talk among themselves they will surely be using those terms.

They do not understand that dating is equal to Indian guys and gals going and seeing each other with their parents organizing and supervising the meeting in India to check out if they like each other and. But in the US and west its how men and women meet and check out the possibility on their own. And its called dating, meeting for lunch, dinner. going out for a drink, or a dance, or inviting over for one on one barbecue.

Atleast I don't see any thing wrong in dating multiple people when they are single. They may just meet up as freinds for casual coffee , to dinner, a conversation and if there is some thing, they may explore further.

But if they commit to someone and become a couple. Those meetings and accepting drinks from guys or Guys buying drinks for gals should not happen.

As long as they are single, its okay to do it. And if they do it after been in a relationship then they are breaking the rules of the relationship and not respecting their partner. And that also means that they are been in a relationship and they are also looking at possibly another one. Which to me is not fair to the current relationship. Either you are in the relationship and be focused totally on your partner and making the relationship working or just get out of it and then go around dating again. Just don't sit on the fence trying to enjoy the benefits of relationship and also trying to enjoy the perks of been single and looking.

Not sure if Eva ever understood this part of what I believe and what I think about relationship. Even she thought that I termed her bad because I used the word dating. Well you can convince yourself with what ever to fool yourself.


Reached at the hike. around 12:45pm and met up with a group of people and the organizer Sidney of the hike. Very interesting group of people. All from in and around Philly.

There were 2 indian gals. Malini who came all the way from Princeton new jersey. And Manisha (gujju) who moved to Philly from Washington DC.

In the beginning all the other guys seem to be trying to get Malini's attention. As she is good looking and also seemed very friendly and very intelligent. I was not interested at all.
Then latter during the hike she came over to me and we started talking.
It was interesting connecting with Malini as she was from Coimbatore came to do her master about 8 years ago and now works as a Certified Accounts Auditor .
The best part was that she dances salsa . During the course of the hike we got to talk a lot about different cultures, our culture, our experience with hiking and connected well.

I told her I am new to this and dont have much experience as I started hiking with a salsa group in Vancouver about 3 years ago. She was hiking since her school time.

We exchanged numbers after the hike and if we our schedules match we may meet up at the Salsa places for salsa or meet up next week or so for more hiking by the same group. Wanted to go out to Brasil again tonite, but it was a 2 to 3 hrs of driving for her from New Jersey. So maybe some other time.

This is the second south Indian girl I am meeting in Philly who is into Sasla with in 15 hrs.

We went around a great many number of little hills and nature and also saw some very exceptional unique house construction design in the interior of the hiking trails.

Back home by 6pm. Should I go for another night of dancing... maybe... hmmm hmmm ;)