Monday, February 9, 2026

Old Gen, Middle Gen, New Gen ,,,, the evoloving saga of emotions, needs, desires, entitlement, confidence, diginity and respect


Old Gen, Middle Gen, New Gen ,,,, the evoloving saga of emotions, needs, desires, entitlement, confidence, diginity and respect 

 

*Older gen :* Ethical , less opportunites, had to put up with narcistic dis-respectful bosses and employers, supperessed diginity, parents did not allow them much luxury of free will and choices. Low Confidence. Dependent on Family property or trade for survival, due to lack of external opportunites. So had to stay in line as per the wishes or dictates of the Head of their Family. So they let out their frustrations by taking to mocking others and putting down others to feel better about themselves, and for entertainment. In present day terms, they just were filled with negativity.

 

*Middle gen (Currently getting older and retirement age) :* Did not have to put up with the hardships of the older gen, more feeling of diginity , entitlement and self respect, more opportunites, confidence bordering arrogance, for having achieved and doing what their parents could not do, complaining about new generations and their lack of respect towards older gen, always looking for ways to get rich quick, falling prey to get rich quick schemes, not interested in real hard physical work, always trying to pass on accountabilty to others, over indulgence in fast food and drinks, start of cell phone culture, getting to see more of the worlds enormous diverse information and exploring possibilities, wanting their kids to have the Worlds Best, yet sticking to and wanting their kids to be near parents.

Complaing that their kids seem to have got all their bad habits, laziness, and character (kids immitate their parents, they do not listen to the parents).

Many suffering from Midlife – Crises, having affairs with yournger people after they reach age of 40, 50 and 60, trying to live like they are still in their 20s .

 

*New Gen (in school, college, getting into work / business: * Immitating their parents superficiality and taking it further, stuck on cell phones, seldom out playing physically. When they DEMAND pampering and indulgence, not able to take NO from parents and teacher. Over confident, Overly Entitled, disrespectful, not tolerating any push back and disrespect. Aware of their rights and demanding respect, free indulgence, wanting everything handed over to them when they demand, very low interest in working HARD work or doing Physical work.
Do not be surprised with Robots doing all the physical work soon,  
and AI (Artificial Intelligence softwares) doing all the logical thinking, reasearch and providing solutions.
 

Tuesday, September 30, 2025

The Roni Story

 
Original Script enhanced using ChatGPT 

The Roni Story – Narration Script


I was sitting and talking with Roni one afternoon, after lunch.

It was something we often did — sharing moments, words, and silences.


That day, she suddenly said to me…

“Son, you are right. The people of this house… are evil.”


Her words stopped me cold.

I was shocked.


First, because I had never told her such a thing.

Yes, I had seen the way her family treated her.

Yes, I had offered her the chance to come stay with my parents and me.

But never had I spoken those words aloud.


And second… because Roni was not someone who spoke with anger or bitterness.

She was gentle, resilient, forgiving.

Yet, in that moment, I could hear the weight of her hurt, sad, truth.


Roni’s household was… complicated.

Her daughter, battling schizophrenia.

Her daughters husband, a man many called a crooked thief. I have seen him steal from others property, was victim and heard stories of his crooked deceiving, betraying personalty. 

Her grandchildren — selfish, self-centered.

People often whispered to me that those grandchildren were alive only because of Roni.

That, without her, their mother might have ended their lives, when they were just babies.


So I gathered myself and asked her, softly,

“What happened?”


She hesitated… and then began to share.


The day before, she had been out by the well, in front of the house.

She was hanging the clothes she had washed, struggling in the afternoon heat.

Roni was over eighty. Her health fragile.

And then… she fell.


She tried to get up.

But her body would not respond. She just could not pull herself up.


So she turned to her daughter and her husband, who were sitting in the veranda.

She called out for help.

They looked at her, saw her struggling, and then… they simply turned and walked away into the house.


Her voice broke as she told me this.


Not knowing what else to do, she cried out louder.

Time passed.

And finally, her granddaughter came out — perhaps disturbed from her studies or by the sound of Roni’s cries.


The young girl tried to help her grandmother stand, but she couldn’t manage.

Frustrated, she went back inside, scolded her parents.

Only then did the son-in-law finally come out…

Reluctantly, he helped Roni to her feet.


And that, she told me… was why she had called them evil.


Her words still echo in my heart.


Evil is not only about doing great crimes.

It can be in the small acts of cruelty…

The refusal to care.

The coldness when someone you are related to lies helplessly on the ground.


Roni’s story is not just hers, it is a reflection of something larger.

How often do we turn away? How often do we fail to be human… when someone needs us most?


If only we could remember, in such moments…  

that compassion costs nothing.

That kindness is not weakness.  That being human means seeing the helpless… and choosing to help.


This, is Roni’s story.

And it is a call…  for us to never forget our humanity.


******************** Translated to Malayalam using Google Translate 

റോണി കഥ - ആഖ്യാന തിരക്കഥ


ഒരു ദിവസം ഉച്ചകഴിഞ്ഞ്, ഉച്ചഭക്ഷണത്തിന് ശേഷം ഞാൻ റോണിയുമായി ഇരുന്ന് സംസാരിക്കുകയായിരുന്നു.

നിമിഷങ്ങളും വാക്കുകളും നിശബ്ദതകളും പങ്കിടുന്ന - ഞങ്ങൾ പലപ്പോഴും ചെയ്യുന്ന ഒന്നായിരുന്നു അത്.


ആ ദിവസം, അവൾ പെട്ടെന്ന് എന്നോട് പറഞ്ഞു...

“മകനേ, നീ പറഞ്ഞത് ശരിയാണ്. ഈ വീട്ടിലെ ആളുകൾ... ദുഷ്ടരാണ്.”


അവളുടെ വാക്കുകൾ എന്നെ തണുപ്പിച്ചു.


ഞാൻ ഞെട്ടിപ്പോയി.


ഒന്നാമതായി, ഞാൻ അവളോട് ഒരിക്കലും അങ്ങനെയൊരു കാര്യം പറഞ്ഞിട്ടില്ലായിരുന്നു.


അതെ, അവളുടെ കുടുംബം അവളോട് പെരുമാറിയ രീതി ഞാൻ കണ്ടിരുന്നു.


അതെ, എന്റെ മാതാപിതാക്കളോടും എന്നോടും ഒപ്പം താമസിക്കാൻ ഞാൻ അവൾക്ക് അവസരം നൽകിയിരുന്നു.

പക്ഷേ ഞാൻ ഒരിക്കലും ആ വാക്കുകൾ ഉറക്കെ പറഞ്ഞിട്ടില്ല.


രണ്ടാമതായി... കാരണം റോണി കോപത്തോടെയോ കയ്പ്പോടെയോ സംസാരിക്കുന്ന ഒരാളായിരുന്നില്ല.


അവൾ സൗമ്യയും സഹിഷ്ണുതയും ഉള്ളവളും ക്ഷമിക്കുന്നവളുമായിരുന്നു.

എന്നിട്ടും, ആ നിമിഷത്തിൽ, അവളുടെ സത്യത്തിന്റെ ഭാരം എനിക്ക് കേൾക്കാൻ കഴിഞ്ഞു.


റോണിയുടെ കുടുംബം... സങ്കീർണ്ണമായിരുന്നു.


അവളുടെ മകൾ, സ്കീസോഫ്രീനിയയുമായി പോരാടുന്നു.


അവളുടെ മകളുടെ ഭർത്താവ്, പലരും വക്രബുദ്ധിയുള്ള കള്ളൻ എന്ന് വിളിക്കുന്ന ഒരു മനുഷ്യൻ.

അവളുടെ കൊച്ചുമക്കൾ - സ്വാർത്ഥരും സ്വാർത്ഥരും.

ആ കൊച്ചുമക്കൾ ജീവിച്ചിരിപ്പുള്ളത് റോണി കാരണമാണെന്ന് ആളുകൾ പലപ്പോഴും എന്നോട് മന്ത്രിക്കുമായിരുന്നു.


അവളില്ലായിരുന്നെങ്കിൽ, അവരുടെ അമ്മ കുഞ്ഞുങ്ങളായിരിക്കുമ്പോൾ തന്നെ ജീവിതം അവസാനിപ്പിച്ചേനെ എന്ന്.


അപ്പോൾ ഞാൻ എന്നെത്തന്നെ കൂട്ടി, മൃദുവായി അവളോട് ചോദിച്ചു,

“എന്താണ് സംഭവിച്ചത്?”


അവൾ മടിച്ചു... പിന്നെ പങ്കുവെക്കാൻ തുടങ്ങി.


തലേദിവസം, അവൾ വീടിനു മുന്നിൽ കിണറിനരികിലായിരുന്നു.

ഉച്ചതിരിഞ്ഞുള്ള ചൂടിൽ അവൾ അലക്കിയ വസ്ത്രങ്ങൾ തൂക്കിയിട്ടിരുന്നു.

റോണിക്ക് എൺപത് വയസ്സിനു മുകളിൽ പ്രായമുണ്ടായിരുന്നു. അവളുടെ ആരോഗ്യം ദുർബലമായിരുന്നു.


പിന്നെ... അവൾ വീണു.


അവൾ എഴുന്നേൽക്കാൻ ശ്രമിച്ചു.


പക്ഷേ അവളുടെ ശരീരത്തിന് പ്രതികരിക്കാൻ കഴിഞ്ഞില്ല.


അങ്ങനെ അവൾ വരാന്തയിൽ ഇരിക്കുന്ന മകളുടെയും ഭർത്താവിന്റെയും നേരെ തിരിഞ്ഞു.

അവൾ സഹായത്തിനായി വിളിച്ചു.


അവർ അവളെ നോക്കി. അവൾ ബുദ്ധിമുട്ടുന്നത് അവർ കണ്ടു.


പിന്നെ... അവർ തിരിഞ്ഞു വീട്ടിലേക്ക് നടന്നു.


അവൾ എന്നോട് ഇത് പറഞ്ഞപ്പോൾ അവളുടെ ശബ്ദം ഇടറി.


മറ്റെന്താണ് ചെയ്യേണ്ടതെന്ന് അറിയാതെ അവൾ ഉച്ചത്തിൽ നിലവിളിച്ചു.

സമയം കടന്നുപോയി.


ഒടുവിൽ, അവളുടെ പേരക്കുട്ടി പുറത്തുവന്നു - റോണിയുടെ നിലവിളി ശബ്ദം കേട്ട് പഠനത്തിൽ നിന്ന് അസ്വസ്ഥയായിരിക്കാം.


ആ പെൺകുട്ടി മുത്തശ്ശിയെ എഴുന്നേൽപ്പിക്കാൻ ശ്രമിച്ചു, പക്ഷേ അവൾക്ക് അത് സഹിക്കാൻ കഴിഞ്ഞില്ല.


നിരാശയോടെ അവൾ മാതാപിതാക്കളെ ശകാരിച്ചുകൊണ്ട് അകത്തേക്ക് തിരിച്ചു.


അപ്പോൾ മാത്രമാണ് മരുമകൻ പുറത്തുവന്നത്...


മനസ്സില്ലാമനസ്സോടെ, അവൻ റോണിയെ എഴുന്നേൽക്കാൻ സഹായിച്ചു.


അതുകൊണ്ടാണ് അവൾ അവരെ ചീത്ത വിളിച്ചതെന്ന് അവൾ എന്നോട് പറഞ്ഞു.


അവളുടെ വാക്കുകൾ ഇപ്പോഴും എന്റെ ഹൃദയത്തിൽ പ്രതിധ്വനിക്കുന്നു.


വലിയ കുറ്റകൃത്യങ്ങളിൽ മാത്രമല്ല തിന്മ.


ചെറിയ ക്രൂരതകളിലും അത് ഉണ്ടാകാം...


പരിഗണിക്കാൻ വിസമ്മതിക്കുക.


നിങ്ങൾ സ്നേഹിക്കുന്ന ഒരാൾ നിലത്ത് നിസ്സഹായനായി കിടക്കുമ്പോഴുള്ള തണുപ്പ്.


റോണിയുടെ കഥ അവളുടേത് മാത്രമല്ല.


അത് വലിയ ഒന്നിന്റെ പ്രതിഫലനമാണ്.


എത്ര തവണ നമ്മൾ പിന്തിരിയുന്നു?

ഒരാൾക്ക് നമ്മെ ഏറ്റവും ആവശ്യമുള്ളപ്പോൾ നമ്മൾ എത്ര തവണ മനുഷ്യരാകാൻ പരാജയപ്പെടുന്നു?


അത്തരം നിമിഷങ്ങളിൽ നമുക്ക് ഓർമ്മിക്കാൻ കഴിയുമെങ്കിൽ...


ആ കാരുണ്യത്തിന് ഒന്നും വിലയില്ല.

ആ ദയ ബലഹീനതയല്ല.


മനുഷ്യനായിരിക്കുക എന്നതിനർത്ഥം നിസ്സഹായരെ കാണുക എന്നതാണ്... സഹായിക്കാൻ തീരുമാനിക്കുക എന്നതാണ്.


ഇത് റോണിയുടെ കഥയാണ്.


നമ്മുടെ മനുഷ്യത്വം ഒരിക്കലും മറക്കരുതെന്ന ആഹ്വാനമാണിത്...

Friday, January 24, 2025

DID I JUST MISS “THE LOVE OF MY LIFE”, THE ONCE IN A LIFE TIME - CONNECTION ????

DID I JUST MISS “THE LOVE OF MY LIFE”, THE ONCE IN A LIFE TIME - CONNECTION ????


Our eyes, met across the aisle, when I entered the door and headed towards my seat in the plane  - THE CONNECTION. 

Eyes Locked, in what feels even now (after about 14 years) - THE CONNECTION.

The Eye lock, for a few seconds, followed by the instant synchronized smile as our eyes lite up and sparks flew  - THE CONNECTION.

Both a bit taken aback, the awkward shyness, each with eyes glowing in excitement, wanting to impress, help and please the other  - THE CONNECTION.


The connection was obviously special and natural, multiple times, paths crossed, on a 12 hrs flight across oceans and continents  - THE CONNECTION.

The frequent blushing as paths crossed, the uneasiness of suppressed excited energies, brain freeze, like breaks applied to the gust of love energy trying to reach out, touch and connect  - THE CONNECTION.

The awkward, few tango of words, as cultures and accents collided, but the eyes locked into each other  - THE CONNECTION.

The eye lock, and smile between two strangers, with the others in the group looking on with confused expression  - THE CONNECTION.


Her kindness, overflowing and revealing in her actions, towards an unaccompanied kid on the flight, shooting up the evolving LOVE in my heart, with more love  - THE CONNECTION.


12 hrs of crisscrossing paths, ending with me left with a life time of regret, for not having the courage and stepping up - THE CONNECTION.


Qatar Airways, JFK to DOH on my way to CCJ on the fateful day of July-15-2012 .....  THE ONCE IN A LIFE TIME - CONNECTION !!!!!

She : Beautiful, lovely and KIND, Caring Air-hostess of Qatar Airways, South African origin.

Me : Passenger on the Qatar Airways Flight from JFK to DOH on my way to CCJ, because my mom was hospitalized. Filled with guilt for having feelings churning in me in a time of family crises. 

****************

some where in between, I was feeling thirsty when I was walking up and down the aisle, to stretch out,, so feeling thirst,,, I stepped into the middle booth (where the air hostess have a staging point for food),
no one was inside, I went in was about to pick up the plastic glass of water and suddenly she came with a huge smile.
 I was a bit taken aback, like she caught me stealing something , I smiled back and said, I came for the water.
She walked close to me, our eyes locked, I was feeling bad that, I thought, she caught me doing something bad, but she picked up the glass of water and gave it to me... phew what a relief,,, 

it was awakard situation I was in,, with my mom in hospital and me having feeling for this wonderful girl,,,, guilt,,


Tuesday, January 7, 2025

MEN ALSO NEED LOVE AND HELP

 


MEN ALSO NEED LOVE AND HELP
1. MEN ALSO NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO
Women usually wait for the man to be there to listen to them, but men also need a shoulder to lean on. Lady, stop for a moment and wait for your man to be there for you, it's not just about you, you're not the only one who has problems or needs a space to vent. In the same way that you tell your man everything because you trust him, make him trust you and he will tell you everything.
2. MEN ALSO NEED TO BE LOOKED FOR.
During dates and intimate conversations, women expect the man to ask questions and follow them, but the man also needs you to show interest in him, ask him questions and to to follow him.
3. MEN ALSO NEED A HUG.
The man is expected to give hugs and good hugs, but men also need the woman to approach him and hug him. Behind the strong ego mask that men wear, there is a gentle heart that also needs tender and loving care. A heart is a heart, whether it belongs to a man or a woman.
4. MEN ALSO NEED TO BE PROTECTED
When you speak ill of a woman or tarnish her name, your man is expected to defend her. But ma'am, also protect your man's honor when attacked, support him in private and in public.
5. MEN ALSO NEED TO BE TOLD "I LOVE YOU"
Although men don't show many emotions, they love it when the woman they love tells them "I love you." Yes, men are weird, they don't usually say these words, but they need to listen. If she stops saying them, he's afraid of losing her.
6. MEN ALSO NEED TO BE PAMPERED.
Men also love gifts, everyone: men or women. The question is, what exactly will please you? Know your tastes, stimulate your ego, laise it, celebrate your achievements, big or small.
7. MEN ALSO NEED TO FIGHT FOR THEM.
Men love a woman who fights for her relationship/marriage. Men can't save love alone, she must fight for him just like him...
8. MEN ALSO NEED YOU TO PRAY FOR THEM.
The man is expected to be the high priest in the relationship/marriage. But men also need the woman to cover them with prayers, for the woman to go to the spiritual battle and growth with him, and to protect him when he feels hurt.
9. MEN ALSO NEED TO BE ROMANTICIZED.
The man is expected to be the one who courts and enchants. But love is better when it is mutual. Lady, enchant your man, be daring sometimes, melt his heart, take it hard; men love a strong woman who can bring her special romance and her spark to the equation.
10. MEN ALSO NEED COMFORT
Men also cry, suffer, cry even if you can't see the tears. In the privacy of the two, hidden from the public; lady, console him, tell him that everything will be fine
11. MEN ALSO NEED PRAISE.
Women expect men to be generous with compliments. But men also prosper with appreciation; go ahead ma'am, don't be silent about his goodness, tell him what you love about him, that he looks and smells good, that there is no other man like him, that he is sexy and wonderful (if he means it).
12. MEN ALSO NEED A MASSAGE.
A woman's dream is to have a man who massages her easily; when she gets home after a long day, he rubs her shoulders, massages her feet, attends to her tension when she is pregnant. But men also have tensions, let your feminine hands detonate those tension bombs.
13. MEN ALSO NEED A WIFE TO START SEX.
Men are often supposed to think about sex constantly and therefore it is the man who should initiate sex. But, ma'am, your spouse will love that you take control from time to time. Excite him, put him in a mood; you know where to touch and lick so that he is up to the circumstances. He needs to know that you want your sex as much as he wants yours.
14. MEN ALSO NEED TO BE TAKEN CARE OF.
What a gentleman should do is anticipate the needs of the woman and satisfy them. What a lady should do is anticipate the man's needs and satisfy them; please him, he is her big baby.
15. MEN ALSO NEED THAT SURPRISE CALL OR TEXT MESSAGE.
Women often look at their phones waiting for the man to call or say "You haven't called me in two days." But men also love calls and surprise text messages; Approach him and put a smile on his face. Instead of crucifying him for not calling you, call him.
16. MEN ALSO NEED LOYALTY.
Men are often expected to be cheaters and dogs, they are very much required not to start adventures. But men also need their women to be faithful and not flirt.
17. MEN ALSO NEED SECURITY.
Men get jealous easily. They, like women, can become insecure and need the woman to ease their fears in a way that says "I only love you. I'm not going anywhere, years later you'll still be who I love."
18. MEN ALSO NEED FINANCIAL GESTURES.
The man is expected to be the supplier, and many women say "Your money is our money, my money is my money." But sometimes a man may encounter financial obstacles and needs an understanding woman to help him tackle the challenges at hand.

Friday, November 29, 2024

Nov-29-2024 Friday Remembering Days with dad, after watching the movie PAZHANJAN PRANAYAM >>>

 Nov-29-2024 Friday Remembering Days with dad, after watching the movie 


PAZHANJAN PRANAYAM  >>>  12:30 noon, just finished watching a Malayalam movie [PAZHANJAN PRANAYAM], kind of story of a guy 40 plus years, not married, looking to get married, gave up job as a teacher to take care of his dad. 

Loads of similarities, that made me think of the beautiful time I spent with my dad. Something my brother Anup was not able to experience and never will know. Kind of started to tear me up and fill up my eyes. 

But the twist is that, as with all movies and dreams, the guy meets a down to earth gal finally and they connect very well.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byvtiPQrVv4  

Saturday, April 15, 2023

DAD : I wish I had known, to love him better !!!!!

 

I wish I had known

To take care of him, better

I wish I had known

To Nurse him, better

I wish I had known

To respond to him, better

I wish I had known

To make him happier, better

I wish I had known

To make him smile, better

I wish I had known

To feed him, better

I wish I had known

To dress him, better

I wish I had known

To clean him up, better

I wish I had known

To walk him, better

I wish I had known

To take him around, better

I wish I had known

To massage him, better

I wish I had known

To listen to him, better

I wish I had known

To understand him , better

I wish I had known

To know him , better

I wish I had known

To spend time with him, better

I wish I had known

To treat him, better

I wish I had known

To respect him, better

I wish I had known

To learn from him, better

I wish I had known

To hold his hands, better

I wish I had known

To give him, better

I wish I had known

To give him the best, better

I wish I had known

To Comfort him, better

I wish I had known

To ease his pain, better

I wish I had known

To make his life, better 

I wish I had known

To love him , better


Missing dad !!! Every day, Every moment ,,,,, Missing his smile every morning, when I wake him up and get him ready for the day,,


Wednesday, August 3, 2022

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