Secnario of conversation between friend1 (BF) and Girl (GF) who is going to India and taking a break en route to meet another guy friend (G1) in mumbai. Where a Hotel room is booked for a night and two days by G1:
BF: Can I ask you something and could please tell me honestly?
GF: What what? (a lil nervous)
BF : Are you going to stay with him in the Hotel or planning to stay with him in the hotel?
GF: "I don't know"
BF : what?
BF : Again are you planning or have you made plans to stay with him in the hotel?
GF: "I don't know,,,,pause for a few secs...I don't know, but I am going to stay in the hotel.
hmmmmm not sure what people reading this will understand as.
To me its a simple "yes, I am going to stay with him at the hotel" or "Yes I made plans to stay with him in the hotel" or "no I didn't plan or did not plan on staying with him at the hotel"
Maybe I am wrong, but not able to see whats wrong other than not able to have a Honest Conversation.
How can there be trust when someone is not able to speak honestly?
Can anyone accuse BF of not trusting GF in cases like this or when they get answers like this?
************************** Mar-20-2010 update **********************
She got cornered like a RAT, when the BF and G1 talked.
And as the instinct reaction of a dirty RAT, she started accusing BF of lying. Not even a iota of remorse or regret or "sorry I lied beause,,,".
Either she will choose to be "Smart enough not to Lie" or "Become a Smarter Liar".
Going by her reaction, which speaks volumes about her deeper issues with Sincerity, Trust and Honesty. Looks like she choose to become a chronic Liar.
***** here is what someone else said***********
ReplyDeletewat i can read frm the convo is tht she is still unsure of da BF....she has naturally said "yes" to the query raised, without using the word....so she is still looking beyond da BF.......but then she isnt ready to walk out on him yet...else it wud hv been a forthrite YES!
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***** here is what someone else said***********
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like his gut is telling him something that she is communicating non-verbally about her and this guy. Her ambiguity in answering him sounds as is she if withholding information and being dishonest.
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